AKA how to develop a healthier relationship with food.
I hope your day is off to a beautiful start! I have to admit, daylight savings (although I do love it) has been quite a bit harder than I was expecting. Maybe I’m still recovering from a weekend of travel, too. Whatever it is, I am having a much harder time than usual waking up in the mornings, and I am ready to be back to my morning-lover self.
So today I wanted to share some insights I have into not letting food and healthy living stop you from living and enjoying life. This was a topic that came up a lot this weekend, and over and over again I found people talking poorly about the food they were eating. And then I found myself doing this, which is a habit I am currently working hard to break.
It’s those “oh, I really shouldn’t be eating this” or “Oh, I’m being so bad this weekend” or whatever that really put more negative energy into the food and actually can make food even more unhealthy for you due to adding cortisol from increased stress response over eating.
As my coach Amanda says, food doesn’t have morals. It’s food. Food can’t be good or bad. There is food that is more nutritious than others, but it doesn’t have qualities that are “bad.” Just because you ate ice cream this weekend, doesn’t mean you are a bad person.
I don’t know why, but our society has really put a lot of morality into the food we eat, and that can translate into judging our own worth based on how we are eating. It can also make food even more unhealthy because we become so stressed out about eating.
It’s just food.
It’s fuel that allows us to carry on throughout our day. It allows our bodies to interact with this physical world around us. It enables us to engage with other people, to do new things, to go cool places.
It does not make or break our own character.
While I do believe it’s important to be healthy and use food that will be more life-supporting, there is a balance. Food shouldn’t be dictating your lives, be keeping you from social engagements due to fear of eating “bad” food, or whatever.
Food shouldn’t stop you from living life. The whole point is that it is keeping you alive and functioning.
My challenge to you (and myself) for the next two weeks: don’t engage in conversations around moral judgement of food.
If you eat food that isn’t the most nutrition, but you want to eat it, just enjoy it. Make choices that will allow you to eat healthy, yet still be able to go out and be around other people. Just because once in a blue moon you eat something with your friends doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you a person. Food can be a great source of connection.
Food should not be isolating, and it should not dictate your own moral character. Use it to connect with those around you, to find pleasure and joy, and to allow you to be able to really live in the world.
Somewhere along the way, if you stop adding morals to your food you can eat what your body truly needs and wants. You can eat the way you are created to eat, because you haven’t added so much judgement and confusion by trying to fit into someone else’s mold of what healthy eating is.
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Do you ever put moral judgements on food? How does it effect your day/mood/ability to enjoy the food that you are judging?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Have a beautiful day,